So I got this text from my friend yesterday while I was at church, this is the same friend from my original Mere Misunderstandings post. I had waited all that evening for her to call and she never had. She says she wants to talk but never follows through with it:
“Hey, I’m sorry I haven’t been responding. I have been having a really hard time with the fact that I don’t feel like I can be myself with you without feeling like I have to say the correct thing. It’s hard to feel accepted when my mistake or forgetfulness is corrected each time. I am working hard to accept and love myself and I need to be with friends that accept me with my mistakes. I hope you understand. I really need space to be myself no matter how forgetful or wrong I may be sometimes. I love you and care about you but I need to honest and tell you how I feel.”
This is the response that I sent her:
“Hey hun, I’m sorry that you feel that way, I never meant for you to feel wrong about things. I want you to know that if I’m correcting you, that’s just a part of who I am, I do that with everyone I’m comfortable with. I don’t want you to change who you are for me but I can’t say that I will change who I am for you either I do love you and care about you and our friendship, and I have missed seeing you and talking to you. I will give you some time and space and just continue to pray that God works in both of us to bring this friendship back to where it was. I would still like to talk to you about things and I am available most evenings and think that it would be good for us to try and work this out. [Mutual friend of ours] was mentioning that she wanted to talk to you as well, so why don’t the 3 of us sit down together and have a nice chat.”
I don’t know what to do with this. She is a dear friend of mine and I was just in her wedding this past summer. I would hate to see this friendship be one of those that is only meant for ‘a season’ I don’t know how to take this as she is telling the same thing to 2 of us.
What do you suggest I do? Any friendship advice? And tips for what to do?