I think I have mentioned this before. I have two friends that have recently had babies. Momma #1 had a baby in March and Momma #2 had a baby a few days ago.
Well, back when we found out that the two of them were pregnant Momma #2 had asked me if I felt left out, which I didn’t; she’s also the one though, that even though I kept saying over and over that it was awkward and uncomfortable for me when we got together with the two couples and me and her was always told it would be the same as it was when it was just the 3 of us, she didn’t ever ask me if I felt left out.
A little more side info. Momma #1 lives 15-20 minutes away, but I never go in that direction and don’t want to invite myself over, I want to wait for an invitation because I realize that with a new baby, schedules are off and Momma needs rest. Now, Momma #2 lives in the same town as my in-laws, so I’d be more comfortable saying to her that I’ll be in town and leaving it at that, if she’s up for visitors she can invite us over, if not, then I would totally understand.
Well, baby #1 was born in March but because of this whole COVID mess I knew meeting the baby would be different. Now Momma #1 said that she wasn’t worried and wanted me to meet baby. But that’s as far as it ever went; I didn’t want to push for a get together or meeting, I still don’t.
Anyway, come end of April I find out that Momma #2 was meeting baby. Ok, that one got to me, because first off I was sure that Momma #2 would be super cautious and not want to get together with people because of COVID. Momma #2 knew that I didn’t want to intrude and was waiting for an invitation – speaking of which, I don’t know if Momma #1 invited Momma #2 or if Momma #2 invited herself.
Well, one month rolled into the next, Momma #1 saying I need to meet but never extending an invitation to come and I never wanting to impose. And we are at the point of baby #2 being born.
And now I’m wondering … will I get to meet baby #1 soon or will I be waiting until I meet baby #2 when the 3 couples end up getting together sometime in the future?
Now with two Mommas and 2 babies I am starting to feel left out again. I know that the 2 Mommas were in communication during pregnancy, which makes sense, they were comparing notes, so to speak. Texting Momma #1 has always been as bad as pulling teeth (or however that expression goes)
I know I’m not ready, we aren’t ready for children, but now I am beginning to feel like there is one more thing connecting the 2 Momma’s that is keeping me apart …
Introverted Relationships 